Author Archives: Blackbirdsong

Endings, Beginnings and Thanks

Even though I already have another blog post that I’m editing, I’ve started writing this one because it just feels like something that needs to come first. Mom is having her last radiation treatment today. It feels monumental and I … Continue reading

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The Camaraderie of Caring and the Solidarity of the Sick

I truly believe that there is nothing worse than hearing someone you love has cancer, except perhaps hearing that you yourself have cancer. Who knows which is worse unless you are unfortunate to have both things occur. I do know … Continue reading

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A Measure of Understanding

My dad died last week. A week ago Sunday to be exact. I received the phone call at 2:45 am and then had the task of waking up my mother and telling her what had happened. I got through that … Continue reading

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A New Poem

This poem doesn’t seem to be about cancer or caregiving, but for many years I have helped my mother take care of my father. It’s been difficult because the past was always been there whether or not I wanted it … Continue reading

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Times of Joy, Times of Sorrow

  “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times.” So begins Charles Dickens great work, “A Tale of Two Cities.” Those words perfectly describe my current situation. My mother’s health has greatly improved over the past … Continue reading

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The Art of Tightrope Walking

Today has not been a good day. First of all, I am exhausted. I feel like I’m on the verge of cracking up because I can’t sleep and when I do finally pass out, it’s not for long. I didn’t … Continue reading

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First steps on a long journey

I will find strength in weakness Grace in despair Beauty in the commonplace New aspects of normality through each trial that comes For my loved one and myself. I will journey through darkness and never give up Help my patient … Continue reading

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